He Just Got Dumped. Should I Date Him?

This week’s post by staff writer Rigby Rat explains why rebound dating is a bad idea for both sides. Have you rebound dated? What was your story?

Hell, no!  He’s on the rebound.

A guy on the rebound is not a choosy man.  He’ll select just about any woman needy enough to be nursemaid to his bruised ego.  Once you’ve put the band-aid (sex) on his boo-boo, he’ll no longer feel hurt.  When he no longer feels hurt, he’ll bid you “Adieu” and head out the door to find true love.  So, don’t date him.  Don’t even offer to water his dying Philodendron.

“But, but, but after dinner, as he followed me out the restaurant door, he said ‘Nice ass’.”

Listen, if you just got dumped and your ego got kicked to the curb, you too would gush some kind of manipulative line to get what you wanted, right?  Wrong.  You’re not a manipulator.  However, you do possess a manipulator radar.  Which means you recognize manipulative statements and don’t fall for them.  So, don’t fall for him, or his line of crap.

Instead, advise the schlemiel to take some time off from women (several months) and tell him, “You’ll never find happiness until you stop looking for it”.  Then go home and curl up on the couch with the cat and your iPad.  Tap the YouTube icon, then type in – and watch – the nine-part documentary: The Men Who Killed Kennedy.  A free education sure beats being used by a guy who has no respect for himself…or you.

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Chasing a Dream

We can all relate to feeling as if love is just within our grasp, that if we try a little harder everything will be alright. We take the leap into love waiting for the one we love to leap after us; but more times than not, we go tumbling down alone. In some cases, dreams can be attained with hard work and a little luck; but we have to ask ourselves, are we being realistic in what we want to obtain or are we chasing a dream?

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3 Ways To Survive Heartbreak

We’ve all been there. We’ve all had that period of time trying to get past a break-up. Here are 3 tips on how to survive grow from the experience from the lovely Liz at WeLoveDates.com.

My sister just broke up with her boyfriend of one year, and understandably, she’s having a very difficult time. No matter how good the reason is for a break-up, they all have one thing in common…they suck. It’s easier said than done, but here are a few tips I shared with my sister to get her smiling again!

1. No contact! It might seem like a good idea to stay friendly with your ex right away, but you are doing yourself no favors in the long run! You need to give yourself time away from him or her, to figure out your new identity on your own. And yes, you are going to miss them, but there will always be time for friendship later.

2. No New Relationships! People love to say that the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else, and while there might be a tad bit of merit to that statement, if you’re on the rebound don’t go trying to fall in love again so soon. Take your time. Spend time with your friends and family. Let things evolve naturally and if this means you aren’t looking for anything serious for a long time, so be it. Until then, keep it mellow…with flirting, casual sex (hey, if you’ve got an itch…) and taking your time!

3. No ignoring your feelings. Whenever we go through tough times, it’s natural to try to numb our feelings; it’s just too painful to face reality sometimes! But the fastest way to get through something is to keep going in a straight direction-not around or some alternate route. Keep the faith and believe that you will make it out the other side.

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