3 Ways To Survive Heartbreak

We’ve all been there. We’ve all had that period of time trying to get past a break-up. Here are 3 tips on how to survive grow from the experience from the lovely Liz at WeLoveDates.com.

My sister just broke up with her boyfriend of one year, and understandably, she’s having a very difficult time. No matter how good the reason is for a break-up, they all have one thing in common…they suck. It’s easier said than done, but here are a few tips I shared with my sister to get her smiling again!

1. No contact! It might seem like a good idea to stay friendly with your ex right away, but you are doing yourself no favors in the long run! You need to give yourself time away from him or her, to figure out your new identity on your own. And yes, you are going to miss them, but there will always be time for friendship later.

2. No New Relationships! People love to say that the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else, and while there might be a tad bit of merit to that statement, if you’re on the rebound don’t go trying to fall in love again so soon. Take your time. Spend time with your friends and family. Let things evolve naturally and if this means you aren’t looking for anything serious for a long time, so be it. Until then, keep it mellow…with flirting, casual sex (hey, if you’ve got an itch…) and taking your time!

3. No ignoring your feelings. Whenever we go through tough times, it’s natural to try to numb our feelings; it’s just too painful to face reality sometimes! But the fastest way to get through something is to keep going in a straight direction-not around or some alternate route. Keep the faith and believe that you will make it out the other side.

We Love Dates is an online dating website & dating advice blog for singles in the UK, Ireland, US, Canada, South Africa & Australia. Liz blogs (and vlogs!) about all things online dating, love, sex tips and relationships. Follow We Love Dates on Twitter, check out our videos on Youtube and get friendly with us on Facebook.

What Do You Really Want?

Here’s another great post from Liz at We Love Dates! If you have ever considered online dating, then you should read this post!

It shouldn’t surprise me that so many of my friends come to me for online dating advice…and by advice, I mean that they ask me sweetly to write their profiles and respond to their emails for them. As long as they buy me a drink, I’m more than willing to help. I’m a giver,what can I say?

I find myself asking them the same question-What do you want? Or, more specifically, WHO do you want? Quickly followed by, do you have any idea what you’re looking for in a man? Usually, the response goes something like this-“I’ll know when I meet him” or “I just don’t want to be alone.” But the thing is, how will you know when you’ve found something if you don’t know what you were looking for in the first place?

To be successful at online dating, you’ve got to have some kind of plan. If you don’t, it’s easy to get distracted by all the attractive (and not so attractive) options. Distractions aren’t always a bad thing, but there’s a time and a place-and you’ve got to consider if they will get in the way of your end goal. You know…your happily ever after.

Online dating is great, but it’s also a huge time suck. I don’t know about you, but I don’t have the desire, nor the time, to sit around online and talk with guys who have no chance of making me happy in the long-run. Sometimes, my friends will tell me they feel bad or guilty if they don’t respond to an email from a guy they know they wouldn’t be interested in. My thoughts? There’s no need to string someone along, and if you wouldn’t talk to him in real life, you shouldn’t talk to him in your cyber life.

Be selective. Have an idea of what kind of person you’re looking for…and if you don’t know, spend some time figuring it out! Trust me, it will save you a heck of lot of time, and stress, in the long-run.

We Love Dates is an online dating website & dating advice blog for singles in the UK, Ireland, US, Canada, South Africa & Australia. Liz blogs (and vlogs!) about all things online dating, love, sex and relationships. Follow We Love Dates on Twitter,and get friendly with us on Facebook.

New Year’s, New Pressures

Here’s another great post from the lovely Liz of We Love Dates just in time for New Years! Enjoy!

It’s that time of year again, where people all over the world resolve to lose weight, make more money, or fall head over heels in love with a glass of bubbly in their hand at the stroke of midnight. If only it was that easy, right?  I am not entirely against new year’s resolutions when it comes to love, but I think it’s important to be realistic, otherwise you’re just setting yourself up for disappointment-and that’s not a good way to kick a new year off. This year, I’m kicking all the unattainable resolutions to the curb.  Instead of promising myself I’m going to squeeze back into my pre-high school jeans (yeahhh right), I’ve decided to hit the gym 5 days a week.  And when it comes to love?  Instead of crossing my fingers that this will be the year I get a sparkly ring on my left hand from my boyfriend (again, yeahhh right) I’ve pledged to be the best girlfriend I can be and to stop being such a jerk certain times a month. It’s all about controlling the things you can, and letting go of the things you can’t.  Pressure isn’t a good look on anyone. New Year’s resolutions don’t have to be huge or grandious-they can be seemingly insignificant tweaks to your day to day life…but I don’t think I need to tell you that small changes can add up to something amazing.  Too late.  I just told you, anyway. 🙂 So, take a chance.  Email that cute guy.  Smile at an attractive stranger.  Ask her out. Put a profile up on an online dating site.  Get dressed up and hit the town.   Put yourself out there.  See what happens.  Happy New Year!

We Love Dates is an online dating website & dating advice blog for singles in the UK, Ireland, US, Canada, South Africa & Australia.  Liz blogs (and vlogs!) about all things online dating, love, sex and relationships.  Follow We Love Dates on Twitter, and get friendly with us on Facebook.