Over the years, the traditional roles of men and women have changed and evolved in some ways to equal out or to even increase the workload. Staff writer Frank Friedlander
focuses on this in his article for this week. What are your thought? Agree or disagree?
So there are two guys hanging out and chatting. The first guy’s dog comes up to him with his leash in his mouth, and drops it at his feet. “That’s his way of telling me that he has to go outside and do his thing,” says the proud owner. “I’ll tell you, this dog is smarter than some of the people I know,” he adds. The second guy is quick to respond with, “dude, my cat is so much smarter than your dog,” to which the second snaps back, “You’re nuts. My dog knows his name, and comes every time I call him. He can even bring me my newspaper and slippers in the morning, not to mention the multitude of tricks that he can perform on command. All I’ve ever seen that lazy cat of yours do is eat and sleep.” “This is true,” responds the first guy.
This little anecdote brings me to an oft-debated topic: who is smarter, men or women? There are perfectly good arguments for each side. From the dawn of time, it’s been the man’s job to do the manual labor, protect the home, and provide for his family, be it food and supplies, or the money needed to purchase said items. The woman’s role was to cook the food, which the man supplied, keep the home clean and orderly, and the most important of all, to create and sustain life, and stay home and care for said life until he or she was ready to go to school. After that, the woman’s role was to once again cook the food and keep the home clean and orderly, at least until the time in which the decided that it was time to create and sustain more life.
As far as sheer importance and hardship, I can’t imagine a more difficult role than to carry a baby for nine months, and then go through the arduous labor process, or in the case of a C-Section delivery, the recovery process. Every father to be has told his pregnant wife at one point that if he could, he’d gladly go through it for them if he could, but it’s very easy to express ones willingness to do something which is physically impossible for one to do. So in the life making department, it is a bit unfair that the woman goes through nine months of pregnancy, as well as the labor, which could last hours, if not longer, whereas the mans contribution lasts about five minutes, give or take, but usually take.
This being said, it’s easy for even the most old-fashioned, pig-headed man to understand why over the past several decades, women have been fighting for their rights, and winning them one by one. And they certainly deserve them. Today, the gap between men and women’s roles in the home and the workplace, even the military is becoming narrower and narrower. Household chores such as cooking and cleaning are shared, in most cases equally. In my case, my wife doesn’t always trust my cooking or cleaning, but I certainly do my share. Women are well represented in virtually every career field these days; The thought or female doctors, lawyers, and CEOs would have been unfathomable, perhaps comical some 50-60 years ago, but today, it’s all a part of the norm. A woman president is a reality that might not be too far away. They just need to find a candidate that’s more likeable than Hillary and less of a sideshow act than what’s-her-face from Alaska. Even in more blue-collar careers such as construction work and truck drivers, we see more and more women than we once did. More and more women are in the military.
Even more unheard of back then is that there are families in which the primary or even sole provider is the woman, and the man stays at home with the children, or simply does housework. The men of yore would certainly not sit back whilst the women folks did all the work. It would be an insult to their manhood. Today, if the wife is the breadwinner, the man’s just as likely to say “don’t forget to bring home some eggs. If you need me, I’ll be here watching my stories.”
One of the most important responsibilities of a man, the one that often defined his “manhood” was once to protect his home and his family. In fact, if a man was unable to do so, he was not considered a man at all. These days, while the man usually is the protector of his family, the general rule of thumb seems to be that if you detect an intruder in you home, you should hide under the bed and call the police. OK, maybe not the hide under the bed part, but certainly call the police. And when the police do arrive, they are very often women. It was not too long ago when if a woman protected a man, he’d never live it down. Today, many don’t even think twice. In fact, most of the things once considered “man-tasks,” such as handy-work and killing bugs and other pests are often done guy simply calling someone, and sitting back as they do the job.
So lets check the score:
Basically, woman have come a very long way since the caveman days, most of which has been in the past 50-60 years or so. Not only do they continue to perform the responsibilities that they have since the beginning, though they are shared more often than not, but they are also taking on new roles each day. Sustaining life and a successful career to provide for, or help provide for her family is very impressive. Women have seemingly doubled their workload, and many are intent on doing even more. As for men, they’re pretty much doing what they’ve done all along. In most cases, tack on a few extra chores. In others, even less work if mama’s bringing home the bacon.
So as for my initial question, while the answer still is unclear…this would probably be a good place to stop, especially if my pregnant wife, who also works full-time, happens to read this.