Simple As It Should Be

I had a conversation with a colleague on the elevator the other day, the usual catch-up, “how was your weekend” thing. I said the usual, “the weekend was too short”. He said his was simple. That answer stuck with me. Most times, the answer you’d hear would be like mine: “too short” or “lazy” or “busy” or “fun”. His answer of “simple” made me think: “shouldn’t there be more simplicity in life?” I say yes. We spend far too much time complicating matters by trying to see what’s not there, doing what we shouldn’t or would rather not, or just putting ourselves out for no real reason. Why must we always choose what is pretty much guaranteed to cause us trouble? Why must we always work towards what everyone else says we should work towards? We have increasingly become a society of square pegs trying desperately to fit the circular holes in the range of life. Why is individuality good for some not all? When did we decide it was a good thing for misery to be a consistent part of the landscape? When will we wake up to doing things just for the pleasure of it, for the growing experience, to see where it takes us? Why can’t life be as simple as it should be?

 

You Sounded Wonderful…Until Your Interests Made Me Uncomfortable…

Oops I did it again…no, not referring to my mini Britney Spears karaoke moment right there but my own situation with just this problem. I had a posting online looking for a movie friend, nothing more nothing less. Enter email response from interesting and seemingly interested visitor from out-of-town male. He was interested until he really paid attention to the signature line of my emails. In my signature line, I identify myself as a relationship blogger and have a link to my site. Once noticed, the guy changes his interest and decides to move on. Does the guy have a right to change his mind? Yes. Am I annoyed that what changed his mind was the reality of my relationship blog? Again, yes and let me tell you why. Yes I have a relationship blog, but I don’t actively talk about it and have it be my main focus of conversation. If it comes up, I’ll talk about it and move on to other things about myself and bring the conversation to information about my companion. Do I use my own life and experiences as subject matter? All the time. As a person who has set herself up to give advice, I can really only offer my own point of view on things mostly based on my observations and my experiences. Are these views wrong? No, they’re not for everyone. Everyone has their own opinions and right to express them. Sometimes they mesh with someone else’s views, more times than not, they differ. Am I disappointed that my interests turned this guy off? Sure, but the practical side of me realizes that there are plenty of available fish in the sea and I just have to continue being patient until I land the big one. Happy weekend and happy fishing everyone!

Is Conversation A Lost Art?

In this age of Twitter, Facebook, and text messaging, are we socially handicapping ourselves with social media outlets? Today, we’ve become so used to 140-160 characters or less exchanges that full length conversations have gone to the wayside. In the dating world, it seems to be preferred to choose a venue in which chatting isn’t necessary or is even frowned on for first date choices. We’ve become so “instant-gratification” oriented that if we’re not impressed in the first few minutes of meeting, we move on. When did conversation become so overrated?

Many relationships and relationships that could have been come to a screeching halt due to confusion, miscommunication, and or no communication. Is it because we want the other person to be intuitive like our technology supposedly able to know what we are thinking without our having to complete the thought? We seem to want a prospective date that comes with a you-tube how-to video rather than take the time to take the other person for a test drive by getting to know them and seeing what happens. You can’t always judge a book by its cover or know everything you need to about another person in 5 minutes or less. Take the time to engage in conversation; you might be pleasantly surprised to see what you find out after the 160th character.