3 Ways To Survive Heartbreak

We’ve all been there. We’ve all had that period of time trying to get past a break-up. Here are 3 tips on how to survive grow from the experience from the lovely Liz at WeLoveDates.com.

My sister just broke up with her boyfriend of one year, and understandably, she’s having a very difficult time. No matter how good the reason is for a break-up, they all have one thing in common…they suck. It’s easier said than done, but here are a few tips I shared with my sister to get her smiling again!

1. No contact! It might seem like a good idea to stay friendly with your ex right away, but you are doing yourself no favors in the long run! You need to give yourself time away from him or her, to figure out your new identity on your own. And yes, you are going to miss them, but there will always be time for friendship later.

2. No New Relationships! People love to say that the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else, and while there might be a tad bit of merit to that statement, if you’re on the rebound don’t go trying to fall in love again so soon. Take your time. Spend time with your friends and family. Let things evolve naturally and if this means you aren’t looking for anything serious for a long time, so be it. Until then, keep it mellow…with flirting, casual sex (hey, if you’ve got an itch…) and taking your time!

3. No ignoring your feelings. Whenever we go through tough times, it’s natural to try to numb our feelings; it’s just too painful to face reality sometimes! But the fastest way to get through something is to keep going in a straight direction-not around or some alternate route. Keep the faith and believe that you will make it out the other side.

We Love Dates is an online dating website & dating advice blog for singles in the UK, Ireland, US, Canada, South Africa & Australia. Liz blogs (and vlogs!) about all things online dating, love, sex tips and relationships. Follow We Love Dates on Twitter, check out our videos on Youtube and get friendly with us on Facebook.

What Do You Really Want?

Here’s another great post from Liz at We Love Dates! If you have ever considered online dating, then you should read this post!

It shouldn’t surprise me that so many of my friends come to me for online dating advice…and by advice, I mean that they ask me sweetly to write their profiles and respond to their emails for them. As long as they buy me a drink, I’m more than willing to help. I’m a giver,what can I say?

I find myself asking them the same question-What do you want? Or, more specifically, WHO do you want? Quickly followed by, do you have any idea what you’re looking for in a man? Usually, the response goes something like this-“I’ll know when I meet him” or “I just don’t want to be alone.” But the thing is, how will you know when you’ve found something if you don’t know what you were looking for in the first place?

To be successful at online dating, you’ve got to have some kind of plan. If you don’t, it’s easy to get distracted by all the attractive (and not so attractive) options. Distractions aren’t always a bad thing, but there’s a time and a place-and you’ve got to consider if they will get in the way of your end goal. You know…your happily ever after.

Online dating is great, but it’s also a huge time suck. I don’t know about you, but I don’t have the desire, nor the time, to sit around online and talk with guys who have no chance of making me happy in the long-run. Sometimes, my friends will tell me they feel bad or guilty if they don’t respond to an email from a guy they know they wouldn’t be interested in. My thoughts? There’s no need to string someone along, and if you wouldn’t talk to him in real life, you shouldn’t talk to him in your cyber life.

Be selective. Have an idea of what kind of person you’re looking for…and if you don’t know, spend some time figuring it out! Trust me, it will save you a heck of lot of time, and stress, in the long-run.

We Love Dates is an online dating website & dating advice blog for singles in the UK, Ireland, US, Canada, South Africa & Australia. Liz blogs (and vlogs!) about all things online dating, love, sex and relationships. Follow We Love Dates on Twitter,and get friendly with us on Facebook.