The Seven Deadly Sins of Relationships

For those that have been following me for some time might notice that I started this topic a couple of years ago but never finished part three. I finally got into a rhythm on writing this week and have finished what I started. Here’s “Seven Deadly Sins of Relationships” in its entirety. Read, comment and share!!

There is definitely an argument for the well-known “seven deadly sins” to also apply to relationships. Do you find yourself being guilty of one or more of the deadly sins in YOUR relationship?

Wrath- We’ve all heard at one time or another: “Don’t let the sun go down upon your wrath” or more simply: “Don’t go to bed angry”. There’s sometimes very good reason to listen to this advice. Sometimes, dwelling on your anger breeds resentment and whatever you fought about in the beginning turns into a different argument entirely. The other wrathful behavior that can sometimes be in relationships is resentment or anger that goes too far. For example, sometimes we can be angry with our mate and are bent on causing pain through either physical means against them or even destruction of some items we know to be important to that person. We know it’s wrong and at the time, we may even feel justified; but do we really want to be known as “the crazy ex”? We’ve all heard horror stories about the “crazy exes” and there’s no honor in that title.

Greed- Are you an emotional or financial gold-digger? Are you taking more than you’re giving? I will definitely admit that no relationship is perfect. Everyone has to figure out what works for them, but when you know that your significant other wants one thing and you’re banking on their love for you to be happy just by your mere presence in the relationship and not the receipt of your love; you’re an emotional gold-digger. We all want to feel special and feel as if our mate will give us what we want and need as we give them what they want and need, but it’s difficult to do this in a one-sided relationship. When you’re in a relationship for what you can get out of it and not for a love that will be “the one” for you, then you’ve become the gold-digger in the relationship. This might be the relationship that works for some couples; but for the majority of us, we want an equal relationship or as close to one as we can possibly get. Take account of what you want and need in a relationship, if you’re with a person who isn’t willing or able to give what you want and need in the relationship, MOVE ON. Why try to force something that is absolutely due to fail? Cut your losses, learn the lessons, and move on towards the relationship that’s right for you.

Sloth- Have you “let yourself go” in the relationship? Are you starting to take your mate, your relationship or even yourself for granted? When we’re in a relationship, we must think about whether this person can really be considered for long-term and for marriage. When you’re with someone who seems lost in a “teenager’s state of living” with mounds of laundry, non-age-appropriate clothing, the utter lack of effort towards responsibility then you might want to reassess whether or not this person has the capacity to be in a successful relationship. Think about whether the pros outweigh the cons and whether your mate can work some of the cons on willingly. If upon addressing the issue your mate is willing to make a change, then the relationship might have a shot; if not, you need to move on to a situation that’s more compatible.

Pride– Pride in your mate or relationship is a good thing. Pride in yourself and accomplishments is also good; but when you use this as a measuring stick to whack your mate with to makes them feel inferior, then you’ve crossed the line into being too proud. Confidence and even a certain amount of arrogance can be healthy in a person; but when you use what accomplishments and assets you have to put yourself in a control position then you might want to take a look at yourself and at the relationship you have. If what you need to feel good is a dominant/submissive relationship, find someone who wants the other side of that. Don’t drag down your mate promising one thing but giving another. Be what you are but at least be fair.

Lust– Most of us have people other than our mates that we find attractive and even allow ourselves a slight fantasy involving these “crushes”. The problem is when that fascination turns into an affair. There have been arguments on both sides about emotional cheating and physical cheating. Some feel that even the mere fantasy about someone other than your mate is a break in trust. Most agree that sex and sexual activities with someone other than your mate is definitely a break in trust and is an affront to the relationship. While I do feel that emotional cheating is subjective, physical cheating is absolutely a break in trust and a serious wake-up call as to the real status of the relationship. It is very easy to be in the camp of “once a cheater, always a cheater”, but sometimes there’s also an argument for going to counseling to see if the relationship is salvageable. There’s a reason for everything even the things that hurt the most.

Envy- Most of us at one time or another have wished for something that someone else has; for example, someone’s clothes, job, family, lifestyle, or even their relationship. Sometimes envy can be innocently wistful; but other times, jealousy and resentment play a large part in our envious responses. More times than not in relationships, one or both persons in the relationship are jealous of a connection that a friend, family member, or even a co-worker might have with their mate. While there are times during which these tight connections can be suspect, you can’t demand that your significant other not have personal connections with others. I get it, the “you are my everything” idea is romantic to think about; but it’s not really practical or fair. Everyone needs someone(s) as their “outside the immediate love or family circle” connection, a place where they can be something else for a period of time. Emotional and mental freedom away from a romantic is a wonderful thing, I would say even necessary. If you’re with someone who would ask you to give up any outside connection (friendships, family, friendly acquaintances), you need to reassess whether this relationship is a truly healthy one. Envy will never do a heart, mind, body or soul any good.

Gluttony- You might wonder how I can fit gluttony into a seven deadly sin; but if you really think about it, you can see how it would make sense. It’s very easy to “love” someone to excess. You love that significant other too much for safety or comfort. You fight furiously to feel alive and possibly even have an even more intense makeup. You take, take, take and take but never try to meet your partner half-way or you give just as intensely but don’t give your partner the freedom to give in return. Eventually, the excesses get old and resentment will rear its ugly head. When relationships are more give and take rather than give or take, you can have more equal enjoyment in it. You can feel that each of you see that each has a share in the relationship and hopefully will want to do your best for yourself and your significant other.


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