The game of dating really only has one clear rule: don’t get attached too quickly. Because if you do, more times than not; you’ll end up crashing and burning. Sometimes it crashes loudly and other times, it crashes in a civilized manner with controlled voices and enough psychobabble to make you think you’re doing a simulated argument with your therapist. It’s never easy, and even if you know that you need to pump the breaks before you end up in a place that leaves you cornered; sometimes, the thrill of the burn is too intoxicating to ignore. On some level, I guess we’re all love addicts. We want to be cherished, accepted, wanted, enjoyed; but our addiction sometimes blinds us to things that are better dealt with outside of the rose-colored haze. Love is never wrong, but we have to be cautious of what we call love. Is it or can it be real or is it a fantasy that we’re pushing along hoping that our wishes make it so?
Plant seeds of love and kindness, nuture with honesty and understanding, and you will reap gratitude for a life grown with intention.
Never underestimate the human need for connection. Everyone craves a connection to something even if it’s to oneself.
Regret nothing. Every decision, every action, good or bad is leading you exactly where you need to be.
So, I’m dating again. Whaaa?! I know right. I’ve taken pretty much a 2 year hiatus to get myself back together after my last relationship and have had plenty to reflect on. Do I have all the answers? Ha! I wish I could say that I did. I’d be a much richer person if that were the case. Am I better equipped mentally and emotionally for this new relationship. I feel I am. Time will tell how right I may be about that. What I do know is that I’m in a relationship that I’m actively interested in and desirous to see what the future may hold for it. And let me tell you, that’s nothing to sneeze at. Will there be a happily ever after for us together? Again, only time will tell, but I’m definitely enjoying the ride and all the things I’m learning about myself and him. I’m learning with each day that sometimes it’s more about the journey than about the destination. You’ve got to learn to appreciate the journey to reap whatever benefits might be available. It’s only the beginning but to figure out where the road might lead, you have to take that first step. Steady on.
Don’t let your attitude towards others slide into apathy because you’re too lazy to fix your own situation.
Be always ready to love, starting first with yourself.