Staff writer Rigby Rat writes this week about the necessity of the right kind of communication and understanding and establishing boundaries.
Then why doesn’t he tell you? Why is he telling me?
I had a guy come to the house to service my boiler. I no sooner began telling him what the problem was, when his cell phone rang. He said, “It’s my girlfriend. She’s always calling and bothering me. What a pain in the ass. How about yours?”
How would you have answered? I didn’t. My personal life is none of his business.
Listen, if my guy were a pain in the ass, I wouldn’t be broadcasting it to the world, or commiserating with the boiler guy. Instead, I would sit him down and clue him in. “Babe, I love hearing from you during the day. Let’s agree on exact times when we can talk.” There, I just solved two problems: 1. His calls come at times when they’re welcome and expected. 2. He’s no longer a pain in the ass.
I wouldn’t commiserate with the boiler guy – or any guy for that matter. Why? I wouldn’t want him to get the wrong impression. Meaning, just because you think we’re kind of in the same boat doesn’t mean I like you, or that we have some kind of connection. Far from it. If you’ve got a pain in the ass girlfriend and you’re complaining about her to me, if we become a couple, then it will only be a matter of time before you start bitching about me to the next woman who catches your eye. No thanks!
Hey, boiler guy, if you took the time to apply yourself to learn how to fix boilers, you can take the time and apply yourself to learn how to fix what ails your relationship.