When we typically think about the male orgasm, we typically think only about the penis; but in doing so, we miss so many other ways to give pleasure. So with that in mind, here is the article I promised a couple of weeks ago with some tips I learned at The Pleasure Chest Chicago. Try them out and enjoy!
1) Talk about comfort levels. Be open in your communication with your partner. You can’t really be sure what your partner is or isn’t open to unless you hear it from them first. While some things might be okay to guess about, sex isn’t one of them. Talk about what you want, what you need to be relaxed and receptive to pleasure, and talk about what you would be open to trying in the future. Don’t forget safety first! Have condoms at the ready, lube for more comfortable and smoother play, and glove it up in addition to the lube for anal play.
2) Explore. You can think you are the best lover in the world and what you have always done in the past with other partners will work with present and future partners; but this isn’t always the case. What may work with one doesn’t always work with all. The best way to figure out just what gets your partner’s engine revving is to explore your partner’s body (with permission of course) and pay attention to their responses.
3) Let your lips, tongue, and fingers do the walking. Kissing isn’t just for lips, hands, and necks. You can also use your lips, tongue, and fingers for seduction. To begin, you can both have some wet soapy fun in the shower or tub and use the water and soap as an extra seduction tool. Who said bathing can’t be fun, relaxing, and erotic? After you two get squeaky clean, then you can proceed to get a little or very dirty…Take your man by the hand and move towards a flat surface to move on to the next part of the fun. With your fingertips, start at the scalp and massage to help make your partner as relaxed as possible and slowly start moving down his body. As you move towards his temples and further down the body, you should add your lips and tongue to the relaxation and stimulation. When you get to the genitals, have fun with exploring the pelvic area, his balls, and the far underestimated sweet spot between his balls and anus. Try some light scratching, and then start adding some pressure to massage with your fingertips. Don’t forget to make this interactive and ask what he likes and how hard and how soft he wants you to touch him. If you decide to do a little more direct prostate play, lube it and glove it up and start slowly so he can relax first and leave the penis for last. Think of the penis as being like a tasty popsicle or ice cream cone and start from the bottom or top depending how you want to start your endgame tongue tease, just make sure you don’t neglect any spot from head to shaft. Listen to your partner’s responses both verbal and non-verbal to get a roadmap to all the right spots to send your partner into orbital orgasmic bliss. Once know the spots that will be sure to make your partner’s body sing, and then they’ll be putty in your hands.
Go make your weekend sizzle and enjoy!
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