Hi all! This is the type of article that would draw attention. I mean let’s face it, everyone wants to know secrets. So, here’s one of our own provided by staff writer, Stephanie Becerra. Enjoy!
The secret to a long-lasting relationship is that there is no secret. All it takes to succeed is mutual respect, interests and admiration. It sounds easy enough but if it were, divorce rates wouldn’t be at about 50 percent, so clearly it’s a tad more difficult than I’m making it out to be. A satisfying, happy relationship requires work, as all things in life do. Things do not just happen and problems do not just “work themselves out”. A constant upkeep and tending to is required which if you’re committed enough to someone, shouldn’t be that much of a hindrance.
First and foremost, a mutual respect should always exist between you and your partner. Sure you may not always agree on everything but the name calling and kicking over chairs stopped being cute in kindergarten. And even then it was obnoxious. Open and honest communication should take place especially during conflict otherwise the same argument will arise again and nothing will be resolved. With a mutual respect in place, arguments can be settled a lot quicker.
Mutual interests. This is a tricky one seeing as everyone insists on believing the old adage that “opposites attract”. I believe opposites do attract, up to a certain point. I can’t really picture a devout Christian and an Atheist ever seeing eye to eye so mutual interests are essential. If you’re one of those couples who has very few, or almost none, try to take interests in your partner’s love of a certain sport or band. It will show them that you care about what they care about and will keep you happier in the long run.
Committed couples, whether married or civil unionized or just living together, if they are truly in love, will always have a mutual admiration for one another. I’ve spoken to couples who have been together for over thirty years and the admiration is still in tact. I’m thinking it has something to do with the everlasting love they feel for the other person.
So if you’re looking for “the secret”, there it is. No secret. Just a mutual understanding, respect, and admiration. Try these things in your relationship and who knows, you may be one of those couples who actually make it past the 3 year itch.
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