Letting Go

This post by staff writer, Stephanie Becerra, bring valid points in the necessity of letting go of negative feelings regarding break-ups. Anger towards the person who you feel has wronged you might help in the beginning; but when it’s all you hold on to, those feelings poison you and prevent you from finding happiness. Read this post and comment if you find yourself relating to these feelings.

Don’t hold a grudge. Forgive and forget. Let go and let live. How many times have we heard these sayings throughout our lives? If you’re the type of person to hold a grudge, especially against former romantic partners, then I’m sure it’s been plenty. It’s easy to dole out relationship advice on the benefits of forgiving and forgetting and letting go of resentments, but it’s a different thing entirely to actually put that advice to use.

When a relationship ends, it can often times be messy. If it’s amicable, then wonderful but that’s the ideal situation that doesn’t often occur. In the cases of a break up due to infidelity, a grudge is expected, if not encouraged by those surrounding us. But in all honesty, who is this grudge actually hurting? I have had friends who loathe their exes for reasons that no longer matter once the relationship is over. Anger, hurt, betrayal – these are all normal emotions that occur when a sudden break up occurs. It’s fine to feel this way but to hold on to the feelings of anger for weeks, months, and years to come is not.

I have learned the hard way that the only way to move on is to let go. Let go of any past resentments and anger you harbor towards your ex. Of course like most things in life, this is much easier said than done. I myself am borderline self-diagnosed OCD and can become obsessed with the tiniest thing so letting go is extremely difficult. But it can be achieved. To do so, I will often ask myself, what would a “rational” person do? A rational person would realize that while I am holding these feelings of anger, my ex is off happily on their merry way and the only person who’s being affected by the negativity is me.

So while holding on to resentment and anger may make you feel better for the time being, at the end of the day the only one who’s getting hurt is you. My advice is to just let it go. It will take time and work and positive affirmations, but it can be done. And if not, make sure to flaunt someone much better looking in your ex’s face. But I suggest trying the former first.

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Are You Turning Your Wife Into Your Mother?

Here’s another great post by Rigby Rat. Men, if you find yourself treating your wife a little more like a housekeeper than the sexy love of your life, then it’s time to get your head out of your butt and start treating her better. Read this article and change your ways!

Yeah, you are.  I’ll prove it. When you were little your mother said, “Clean up your room.”  She said this for two reasons: 1. She enjoyed a tidy house.  2. To teach you to clean up after yourself.  When your wife says, “Would you pick up your dirty socks?” who does she sound like?  That’s right, your mother.  You may have left your socks lying around when you were twelve because you were lazy – or to be a prick – but your wife isn’t your mother.  I’ll say it again, your wife didn’t birth you.

Your wife is the woman you take sexy showers with and fantasize about.  Then why the heck do you leave dirty socks in her path?  WELL?  Listen Einstein, your mother changed your diapers.  You’ve been out of diapers for how long?  Then pick up your own damn socks.  Better yet, never leave them in your wife’s way.  Instead, do something more productive.  Go into the bathroom, light some scented candles, put the radio on low, start the shower, wrap a towel around your naked torso, grab the back brush, go find your wife, put a come hither look on your face, and ask her if she wants her back rubbed.  You want a lover for life?  Then NEVER, EVER treat your wife like she’s your mother.