If any of us were asked, “what was the worst dream you’ve ever had?”, most of us would answer being caught in public without our clothes on. We feel this way because it’s our fear of being seen as vulnerable. The idea of vulnerability gives us the feeling of weakness and inferiority. We don’t like being openly acknowledged as being unprepared. In other words, we don’t like being caught with our pants down.
Unfortunately, this negative feeling towards vulnerability carries over into most relationships. We don’t usually like to feel as if someone has power over us, especially emotional power. It’s all well and good for someone to hold our love and desire because usually this has been given freely; but to have control of our emotions, to know our fears and weaknesses, this is unacceptable for another person to be able to see and possibly use against us. This thought is one that’s gone through many a mind when considering how much we’re willing to let someone in. Taking the leap and trusting someone with all our heart is a frightening thing; it’s hard to be able to believe that he or she will catch you when you fall and stick around when they do find out our weaknesses. It’s a scary risk; but with the right person, it is one well worth the cost. So many times fear and pride has had more control of our thoughts and feelings about relationships than faith. This common issue is one that is necessary to work on for our own sakes as well as that of those that wish to share a life with us. We need to let ourselves see the positivity in vulnerability.
There’s freedom in letting yourself be vulnerable and even more so a power in putting yourself out there with no qualifiers or walls. The trick in being more confident in our “nakedness” is taking an inward look at what we feel is imperfect about ourselves and owning those imperfections as something that makes us unique. We shouldn’t fear our imperfections, we should embrace them with the confidence that our imperfections are the difference in what we are and what we could be. Being more “naked” can help us in all sorts of aspects of our lives. We can take a long look at ourselves and focus in on what is different about us and really see whether our imperfections are really something that’s holding us back or if they are something we need to magnify with confidence.
And with that final thought, I challenge you all to take a few minutes once a week to really look at yourself, both your “public” self and your “private” self and come up with 2 things about yourself; one thing that you love about yourself and one thing that you hate about yourself. What is it about what you love about yourself that gives you such confidence to show it to the world? What is it about what you hate about yourself that you feel you have to hide it or change it? I’d love to hear your answers to this introspective challenge. Be an inspiration to yourself and let that inspiration spread to others.