No Home Fires for Me

On a holiday so centered on family and camaraderie, it’s easy to forget that not everyone has a family or loved ones to spend the holidays with. Let’s keep in mind that regardless of our status of having family or loved ones, we can and should all pay it forward with kindness. Don’t squander your chance to find a way to make the holidays merry.

 This year, I consider myself one of the lucky ones. I may not be able to spend the holidays with my complete family, but I have the chance to celebrate Christmas with both of my sisters. For two years, I had promised my mother that I’d be home for Christmas; but each of those years, I had failed my promise. I had failed to fulfill my mother’s one true wish, to have her whole family together again under one roof. Even though Christmas is supposed to be “the most wonderful time of the year”, I can’t help having mixed feelings. I’m happy to have Christmas with my sisters with a tree, presents, music, and a feast with all the trimmings; but as time passes, I can’t help yearning for more time with my parents and my sisters together. In years past, I had chosen to opt out on Christmas back in my hometown. Now in looking back, I regret squandering the time especially this year when the decision has been taken out of my hands. I’ve had too many regrets to want or need to add more. So I leave you with this final thought: Remember how important loved ones are before there’s cause to add more regrets.

3 thoughts on “No Home Fires for Me

  1. I hope you have a good time with your sisters. You are very right, sometimes it is so easy to focus on what you don’t have that you don’t enjoy what you do. Christmas isn’t about loving what you get under the tree…it’s more about learning to love what you have before the wrapping paper goes flying!

    I just kinda blogged about how this Christmas is a little different for me too!
    Merry Christmas!

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