Do you feel as if you and your mate are at cross-purposes sometimes? It’s probably because you are. It’s usually not the aim of a couple to be in conflict with each other; but this is what happens when there is a lack of communication and understanding. I’m sure you’ve thought at one time or another: “I’ve said this HUNDREDS of times! Why aren’t I getting through to them?” or “Why is he or she not hearing me?”. I can say with surety that in about 90% of those instances, they heard you. The problem is that they weren’t LISTENING. We feel that the concepts “hearing” and “listening” are interchangeable and that to drive our meaning through, we only need to repeat what we want. While it seems logical that to speak to someone automatically equals understanding on the on the listener’s side, we have to allow for the reality that listening is double-sided. The speaker needs to listen just as much as the listener.
What are your thoughts? Do you agree or disagree? Comment or send your story about your own relationship!