You will never reach your full potential if you chain yourself to someone else’s expectations.
You never know where you might just get the kick in the ass you need to get you out of neutral and kick you into high gear on being the badass you’re meant to be. The road to the kick in my ass started as a jolt from a quote from a Facebook friend named Catalyst John: “You will be as successful as you allow yourself to be. It is time to give yourself permission to be unleashed.” I don’t know about you, but I feel it’s PAST time I unleashed myself and rose out of the ashes of my hard times and sedentary existence. The actual kick however came from a memory of something my ex said to me a few weeks ago, “I keep forgetting your awesomeness.” Now, if someone who has chosen not to be in a relationship with me can admit I’m awesome, why can’t I admit it and actively live it? Well kids, buckle up; it’s about to be quite a ride! Stay tuned and live your awesomeness!
As some of you may have noticed, I’ve changed the name of the website and the tagline recently. I have so many ideas constantly floating in my head that I have decided to change the blog from a relationship one to a lifestyle one. The quotes will continue, the full-length posts will continue, but there will be more to come in the future. I’m very excited about the change and I’m sure you will be too. Don’t forget to visit and please feel free to email me with anything you might want to see on the blog!
Run the day and don’t run away.
Disappointment doesn’t always have to be a “diss”. Tweak what didn’t work in that instance and grab your success.
Balance is a choice not a given. Every decision made can tip the scales from peace into chaos.
A harsh word spoken plays itself on a loop and can be eventually made into white noise, but silence echoes in the mind picking up lyrics with every thought.
Let your faith be blind and your love without judgment; for if you treat faith like hope and love as a gift rather than a trial, you can open doors formerly unseen.
I know, it seems I’ve maybe lost it a little bit and am now repeating myself unnecessarily. I promise I’m perfectly sane (you know, sane for me) and am not repeating myself unnecessarily. I’m referring to the concept of actual courtship while in a relationship. Just because you are in a relationship, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t make the effort of “winning” your partner. If you thought your partner was worth going after in the first place, then they should be worth it to you to show them how special they are each time you interact with them. I’m not saying you have to buy them gifts everyday, but simple gifts, gestures, and heartfelt words are appreciated. Maybe cook or order out your significant other’s fav dinner, bring them coffee or breakfast in bed, tell them they’re gorgeous, leave little notes to let them know you’re thinking about them and enjoy the time you spend with them.
Just don’t let your sig other be a habit, routine or something else taken for granted. Make an effort through every stage of dating. Just because your present sig other chose you in the beginning, it doesn’t mean they won’t leave for someone who actively and sincerely shows up in the relationship. A great relationship isn’t a given, it’s a rewarding result of a partnership between two people who don’t want to settle for mediocre.
It’s easy to feel as if relationship fights and arguments are like a battle you must prepare for. You would be right. But put down your weapons and come to the field empty handed, open-minded and open-hearted and an attitude of being ready to listen most likely even more than you should talk. It’s a battle of hearts against your discord, NOT each other. So no bloodshed please.
When you come to battle your differences, do so with a mind towards working together even if the outcome may not be what you came to the table to accomplish. We all have ideal plans for how we want things to go. Sometimes, this actually happens; more times than not, it ends in very unexpected ways sometimes leading to extended meetings to come to a treaty of sorts. You’re only as effective as you let yourself be. If you come into it with a single-minded focus, you’ll lose sight of some of the side notes that could have helped your cause or even have given an even better outcome than you originally thought possible. Fights are necessary to relationships and can even be beneficial if they are the RIGHT kind of fights and we have and use the right tools to get through them in a healthy way. You fight for what you need, you fight for what you believe in. Your tools are open communication, honesty, time, listening not just hearing your partner, and a willingness to go back to the table sometimes to figure out a healthy viable game plan to get back on or to stay on track TOGETHER. The most important thing about being in a healthy relationship is that you have to be on the same page. You can’t be divided and hope you’ll end up on the same side in the end. You have to be in it together from start to finish. An unsupported relationship is like a sand castle, it might be fun to build in the beginning; but at the first good wave, it will all wash away. Don’t get me wrong. You yourself must be strong yourself before you can be strong as a team, but trust is an irreplaceable mortar you can’t maintain a relationship without. Build trust, maintain trust and there will be no need to bust out your war arsenal because you will know and understand there are better ways to end a fight.